The
second Sunday of February, newspapers of any tongue and label carried of the
tragic news of murders and suicides all centered on the compounds of a school. A
15 year old student Stabs a teacher to death; another 15 year commits suicide
by hanging; two classmates jumped off a four storey building; a 17 year boy
found dead in Rabindra sarovar.
All
these incidents had quite a few common features even though all these mishaps
were registered in different parts of the country. The students in all these
misfortune incidents were Metro based, all were admitted to reputed institutes
of Teaching, and all had Parental pressure to perform way beyond their league.
Numerous motives were offered, by many an experienced and knowledgeable
professionals for the irrational behavior of Juveniles at their most depressed
moments, especially at a phase that could turn the course of their career
paths. The rational reasoning grounds were multifaceted and blamed every
institution of society involved in an Individuals grooming; the parents and
their personal ambitions, the Individual and his ability, the administrators
and teachers of schools.
All
are born equals, that’s factual in the eyes of the Indian law and some of the
greatest religions of the worlds, but when it comes to the faculties of an
individual some are more blessed than others. Some may excel in mathematics,
some in science or Literature or fine arts, it all depends on an individual’s
interest. Focus in any area against one’s own inclination either through
emotional pressure or by compulsion of the society’s establishments is an
indiscernible form of cruelty. When heart and mind work together, expect a
miracle; but that’s just an old English quote for many of the parents. The most
popular school, the most popular course, placement assuring colleges, good
salary package, these are the things that bother the parents most than the child’s
proclivity.
It’s
the individual upon whom the burden of fine performance is placed for eternity
by the distressed parents, who rather believe in their own ill advised judgment
than the desires of their wards. Parents are to be blamed for enforcing their
own ambitions, whims and fancies as destiny on the young and hapless souls.
Fair and foul means are often adopted by parents to achieve their ‘own’ dreams
for their children. Aren’t the problematic students to be blamed at least in
some of the cases, no, as the problematic student most often turns out to be a
victim of bad parenting; it’s always the pampered single child or the only daughter/son
or single parent child, adjusting to the strict environment of a classroom is
almost a hell for them. The eastern policy of cohabiting with children until any
one of them goes to the grave needs an overhaul. A Teen, with all the responsibilities
of an adult and mollycoddled, how can anyone endure such a misery?
Teachers-
in a private management setup are mere pawns and scapegoats in this vicious environment.
Professional Ethics, service compulsions, or the customer’s needs, demands a
golden egg out of every students. Mature teachers accept diversity among
students, some don’t, but still only parents are to be blamed for enforcing
their own will on their children’s.
Robert
kiyosaki is a stranger to most of us, not all parents can think like him or believe
in his theories.
